We hear a lot about getting clear on our goals and I’m a huge fan of it, but there’s something even more important in regard to moving toward the life you should be leading.

What’s behind your goal?

Why do you want what you want?

Let me explain.

We’re a pretty emotional species. We make our decisions emotionally and then justify them by logic (sometimes we don’t even justify them very well). We set goals for the same reason.

Let’s take money as an example, it’s on most people’s “Things I want more of” list.

WHY? Why do you want more money? I’m serious about this.

There’s always an emotional answer to this question.

Do you believe more money will make you: Happy, Powerful, Loved, Important, Safe, sexy, Free, etc. etc.

The emotion behind the goal is your real goal.

Get clear on what’s behind the goal, and you tap into the emotional power that will drive you toward it. You might also find there’s an easier, more direct route to your real goal.


Until this morning I didn’t realize how much of my life I spend in “but”….”I’d love to get into better shape, but I’m busy”, “I’m  excited about my new keynote, but now that I’m back at school…” and “I’d love to travel more, but I’ve got kids and responsibilities”.

The list goes on and on and on and on and on.

I was challenged this morning by my good friend Claude to replace the word “but” with the word “and”. Suddenly everything changes. “I’d love to get into better shape and I’m really busy”, “I’m really excited about the new keynote and now that I’m back teaching…”

The words are small, the difference is huge and already I’m seeing a LOT more possibilities. I’m changing my vocabulary and getting rid of but, I’ll keep you posted.

Check out more about Claude HERE.

A Foggy Day In Blog Town

Sometimes our goals and the route to them is clear, more often than not, there’s something in the way. We can stand in the fog waiting for the entire route to become clear or we can start moving forward, as we do, a little more of the path keeps revealing itself.

If we sit around waiting for the entire path to get clear, we’re going to have a long wait and we’re going to be late. Get moving, the path will reveal itself as we walk it.